Immensely sad but incredibly proud.

Dear readers,

It is with a heavy heart but also with extreme proudness that I am posting this update…

On Saturday evening, my beautiful and amazing son, Iver Cohen Benson, was born. Iver is healthy and is the cutest and most precious person I have ever met. As to be expected, it will still be a bumpy ride for he and I as he continues to grow under the care of the wonderful staff at the hospital.

On Sunday, we had to unfortunately say goodbye to the strongest and most wonderful woman I have ever met. I miss Robyn more than words can explain. I could not be more impressed with her strength, and I am so lucky to have known her. She will live on forever within Iver, and in my heart.

Thank you to each and every one of you for your love, your kind words, and your support during this incredibly difficult time. The shares of this page and the thousands of comments that I have received, both here and on the YouCaring donation page, have helped so much with getting through these past days and weeks. I truly appreciate the love and support from all over the world.

All the best to you all.

Dylan (and Iver)

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  1. Santarita’s avatar

    Hi Dylan,
    I’m from Australia and on the left hand side of my laptop I have a pin saying “Thoughts by Dylan Benson”… I was so touched by your story and like many want to hear how you are and how your little boy Iver is doing.
    May you have the love and support of the entire universe to guide you along the way.
    You are an incredibly strong man, who is now the most important light in a little boys life. Your sons..
    Take care and I look forward to seeing more of future posts.
    Santarita

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  2. michelle v’s avatar

    blessings with the birth of your son and prayers for you as you grieve the loss of your wife.

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  3. Rose’s avatar

    All the very best to you & Iver as you begin on this incredible journey together. Enjoy every moment.

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  4. Amy’s avatar

    Dylan,
    I’ve spent quite a few nights up praying and thinking about your wife, you, and your son. This story touched my heart in an undescribeable way.. I can only hope that Iver is doing well and gaining weight. Just know that you are never alone and you have many people around the world who are thinking about you. It is okay to cry and feel weak. Just as everyone else has said, you and Iver have a wonderful guardian angel watching over you from above. We may never be able to understand God’s intentions with his actions, but know that everything happens for a reason. Stay strong and I hope to hear an update soon on how baby Iver is doing. Take care and much love.

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  5. Christine’s avatar

    Dylan,

    I read your story a few days ago but am finally finding time to write a comment. I’m very sorry for the loss of your wife.

    My son was also born at 28 weeks gestation, he spent 9 weeks in the NICU. Today is he a happy and healthy 18 month old. The NICU is a hard journey, emotionally and physically exhausting. One day could be great, and the next day not so great. Preemies are tough little guys though. My prayers will be with you and Iver. If you ever need advice feel free to email me….there is an entire preemie community online and reading their blogs helped me for sure as well as writing my blog.

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  6. Tammy’s avatar

    Dear Iver
    Welcome to this world! Your dad has been and always will be giving you the best. He will tell you about your wonderful mom who had held so strong for you even in her death. I’m sad that you won’t be able to meet the most wonderful woman in your life but I trust she will be always in your heart.

    Dear Dylan
    My thoughts are with you for your loss of Robyn. I’m sure she is very proud of what you have done for Iver, including writing this blog. Please continue it so when Iver has grown up, he will get to know more about his beautiful parents.

    Take care
    With love and thoughts from Australia
    Tammy xx

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  7. Debra’s avatar

    May your beautiful wife rest in peace. She will live on through you & your gorgeous son. I hope Iver continues to gain strength & be a healthy little boy who will bring you much love & happiness. Thinking of you from Australia & wishing you both the best of luck together.

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  8. Amy’s avatar

    Hi Dylan,

    Your story has touched my heart tremendously. I wish you and Iver the very best. He is going to grow up healthy and happy and make you and Robyn proud.

    Best wishes,
    Amy

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  9. Nicole’s avatar

    Dylan, Iver,

    I just read about your story on a German news website and was absolutely shaken by it! Then I found your blog and read the entries with tears in my eyes – Tears of heartfelt sympathy. I can hardly imagine how hard this situation is for you. On one side the joy of birth of little Iver, on the other side the painful loss of your beautiful wife.

    Please be strong for sweet Iver, be as strong as Robyn was! She will always be with the both of you and will watch over you and guide you! Her spirit will live through Iver, one day you might recognize it in the way he behaves or talks and it will be like “hey, your mother did this quite the same way!” and there will be a smile upon your face.

    There will be the time when you will find your peace and Iver will help you to get there so much faster than you can imagine!

    I hope you will continue this blog and let us know about how little Iver is doing so far!

    Thank you for sharing your story with the world!

    Greetings and sincerest condolences from Germany,

    Nicole

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  10. damani’s avatar

    Dylan,
    If you get to read this I wanted to say how deeply sorry for the loss you have suffered and the journey you were forced onto. I am so glad Iver has been born healthy and that modern medical technology has allowed him to be here with you today. Just look at how your story has gone around the world and touched so many people and although nothing can bring your beautiful wife back you and Iver will always be loved by so many people you’ll never get to meet. You will be the thoughts of so many prayers. Wishing you all the best of luck with the future and the best of life to your miracle son who will show you that you will be loved once again le your wife cared so much for you. You make me have hope for a better world and I thank you for sharing your story you are so brave xx

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  11. Jessica’s avatar

    Dear Dylan,

    I have been following your story and log on regularly to check your updates. I am not sure what to say…. I am speechless (which never occurs). You are so brave and must be incredibly proud of Robyn. I believe your strength has taught many people how resilient and strong human being are, and you Dylan are one of the strongest person on this earth.
    To have the strength to continue on, to have the courage to raise Iver as a single dad, to have the heart to say goodbye.
    Iver has had the best start in life, a mother who would not give up on him and a father who has inner strength that is indescribable.
    I wish you all the joy in the world, enjoy this amazing journey with your son, I hope you keep posting to keep us updated on how well you are both doing.
    Sending you love and best wishes.

    Jessica
    Australia, Newcastle, NSW

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  12. Brett Cody’s avatar

    Dylan,
    I don’t know what to say. I am so humbled to communicate with you, sir. I pray the Lord richly bless you and Iver. What an incredible value you have placed on life! May the grace of Christ Jesus be with you.

    I will be holding my wife and children and telling them I love them…and I will be doing it more because of you, Robyn and Iver.

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  13. Lisanne Bloem’s avatar

    What a wonderfull story. I didn’t know it was even possible. I wish you all the best with Iver. May your wife rest in peace.

    Love,

    From Holland

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  14. Tamara Hanberg’s avatar

    Dear Dylan,

    I read about what happened with respect to your wife, and the circumstances involving the recent birth of your son. I am so sorry for your loss, and pray the coming days, weeks, and months are gentle for you as you grieve for Robyn. Hearing your words and the pain in your voice brought me to tears. I can only hope that one day I can meet a man as kind, loving, and devoted as you are to your beautiful son and as you were with your wife.

    God bless you and your family.

    Hugs,
    Tamara

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  15. Paanch’s avatar

    Hi Dylan and Iver!

    Well, I can’t find the words… Dylan, I’m sure you will be (and already are) a wonderfull dad for your son. Give him all your love AND all the love your wife would have given to him. She had to leave, but she left you a treasure. He will help treatening your broken heart, he will fill you with more love you ever imagined, and thanks to him, you will laugh again earlier than you would have think.
    Be strong. The baby’s journey at NICU is so exhausting for parents, and worse when there is only one of the parents! This tiredness added to the loss of your wife must be so difficult to endure. I hope you’re well surrounded.

    Friendly, from France.
    Paanch, mum of a wonderfull (of course) son who is 6 months old.

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  16. Sabine’s avatar

    Dear Dylan, god bless you and your son, I am sure your wife will watch over you and stay close to you both from “over there”. Love never dies
    Sending love&light to you both
    Sabine

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  17. Carol’s avatar

    Dear Dylan,

    Thank you, Robyn and Iver for saving my life. I read your story about 2 days ago while I was planning my suicide. I was alone at my apartment, my housemate was travelling and I was thinking in a softly way to go.

    I was sad, I was crying over my thoughts, I was trying to finally take a decision and it was 4 am and I could not sleep. Then I found your story on the news and it made me think. I now see I didn’t wanted to do it, I just needed a hug but instead of the hug it was like a wake up call, a slap on my face on the fact your wife was fighting to save your boy’s life and I was fighting to take my own life.

    Then I decided to go to sleep but I could not sleep. It was 5 am and I was so desperate that I could make something crazy that I’ve just took sleeping pills and didn’t wake up until next late afternoon. My boss called me wondering about my absence and I cried about another hour on the phone while he was trying to confort me (he is a wonderfull human being).

    There’s just one moment when one single drop can just be enough to fill the bucket that was just making me give up but there was you and your wife surviving to give life to your little boy and this turned on a light very deep down on me first because the name of your boy is very similar to the name I want to give to my son if someday I have a baby (Iker, it’s a basque name) and then I felt ashamed because I’m healthy and I was weak because of all my problems but I can just try again. And I will.

    And if I fall once again I just have to stand up 10 times. Because this is what life is all about, right? I see you standing tall despite of everything and you have this wonderfull little boy as a giant reason to keep going and I wish you are a wonderfull father to him. I wish you the best and thank you, thank you, thank you, thank you, thank you, thank you, thank you, thank you, thank you, thank you, thank you, thank you, thank you, thank you, thank you, thank you, thank you, thank you, thank you, thank you, thank you, thank you, thank you, thank you, thank you, thank you, thank you, thank you, thank you, thank you, thank you, thank you, thank you, thank you, thank you, thank you, thank you, thank you, thank you, thank you, thank you, thank you, thank you, thank you, thank you, thank you, thank you, thank you, thank you, thank you, thank you, thank you, thank you, thank you very much for giving me reason to believe that even when you think everything is lost, there’s always something or someone that may save the day. And your story saved my day and I wish you hapinness and strenght and a wonderfull life. I will keep this blog on my favourites and I will be always grateful to the unexpected way you made me think of life as a unique blessing.

    Greetings from the south of the world,
    Carol

    Ps: sorry for grammar mistakes, I’m fluent in english but english is not my native language.

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  18. T.Christie’s avatar

    I would like to say thank you for sharing your story, and I wish I had a beautiful phrase of my own. Having experienced the loss of my son only 3 short months ago I can empathize with the emotions you’re feeling and that only time can truly heal, but I hope you find comfort in a quote that helped me. “But I have discovered that after climbing a great hill, one only finds that there are many more hills to climb. I have taken a moment here to rest, to steal a view of the glorious vista that surrounds me, to look back on the distance I have come. But only rest for a moment, for with freedom come responsibilities and I dare not linger my long walk has not yet ended. “– Nelson Mandela
    Have faith in yourself Dylan your wife was strong because she had a wonderful man to support her. From a wife who can empathize.

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  19. Florian’s avatar

    All the best for you and your wonderful son from Germany.
    Florian

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  20. Taryn’s avatar

    Dear Dylan

    I just came across your story via an online news letter in South Africa and was drawn to the picture of you and your gorgeous tiny little baby boy. I read your blog with tears in my eyes and I am so sorry for your loss. Your story is a miracle and baby Iver has such a wonderful mom who brought him into the world. He will be more of a blessing in your life than you every imagined. My heart is filled with emotion and I send you much love and hugs across the world and wish you only the very best. Things happen for a reason and for a special reason you were chosen to go through this and be Iver’s dad and I just wish you much strength in the tough, sad times and so much laughter and love and joy in all the many good times your family have to look forward to.

    All the very best
    Taryn

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  21. Anne’s avatar

    Dear Dylan and Iver, I am from South Africa and have just read your story in a local newspaper. I am so incredibly sad about your loss, but am also very delighted that you have a beautiful baby boy. Your wife will live on in your hearts and your boy will grow up knowing that his mom was an incredibly beautiful and strong woman.

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  22. Cindy’s avatar

    Dylan, Please accept my sincerest condolences regarding the loss of your wife. Congratulations on the birth of your child.
    I know first hand how bitter sweet this experience is ! When I gave birth to my first child 32 years ago, it was one of the sweetest days of my life. 2 days later was one of the saddest. My husband died of Leukemia before ever getting to meet his brand new son! I never got to say goodbye to him and he never got to say hello to his son. The following months were some of the hardest times in my life, but also the most rewarding as well. Today, my son is an outstanding man studying chemistry and beer brewing at UC Davis. I don’t know what I would have done without him in my life and I have never been more proud. But the sadness of him never getting to know his father breaks my heart. But I remarried and my husband has been his father since he was 6.
    Much love to you and your baby. Believe things happen for a reason! You will be amazed as this child grows and looks, moves, talks, etc like Robyn and THAT will keep her spirit alive ! God Bless you both !
    Cindy

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  23. Jennifer Margulis’s avatar

    Congratulations on the birth of your beautiful baby. Please keep us informed of how you and the baby are doing. So many people are thinking of you and praying for you and wishing you the best.

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  24. Monique Fidom’s avatar

    Dylan,

    My English is not perfect, but I want to say that I hope you will surrounded with people who take care of you. I was really moved by your story and the courage to share it with us.
    Keep up the spirit and enjoy Iver.
    Best regards, Monique Fidom,
    the Netherlands

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  25. Marina’s avatar

    I just watched your story on a news and it made me visit this page. I read all of your stories with tears in my eyes. You are so strong and give a lot of courage to people who read this story. I know you are definitely going to be a great dad to Iver. Many people from all around the world cheer you up. Don’t forget you have tons of support. Wishing you both lots of happiness:)
    Lots of love,
    from Japan

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  26. Rosalie’s avatar

    Congratulations Dylan on the birth of your son , and I would like to convey our deepest sympathy to you and Iver on the passing of your wife and his mother , Robyn.
    Beautiful and much loved wife and mummy ; may you now rest in peace . You did well chick.
    Baby Iver , you have come into this world with much love and support ; hang in there lil champ.
    Dylan , Best wishes mate for the continuation of your journey. Please post from time to time ; your story and Iver’s is important to us.

    from our family here in Western Australia

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  27. Lisa P’s avatar

    Iver is beautiful. He’ll always know what a wonderful mom he has (she will always be his mama) — and how precious he is to you. Praying for you during this difficult time and for your new life with baby Iver.

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  28. Jane Austen’s avatar

    Dear Dylan,
    Many congratulations on the birth of the son you have been waiting for so anxiously all these weeks. It is terrible that you have now had to say goodbye to your lovely wife. From what you say and as a mother I am absolutely sure that she would have wanted you to take the steps you had to to save Iver’s life- and would have been so proud of what you have achieved.It must have been incredibly difficult to see her each day and not be able to communicate – and even worse now not to see her. I don’t know whether it helps to hear of other stories of babies who have survived traumatic early births but our daughter was born at 28 weeks and recently celebrated her 10th birthday. She does have some hearing problems but is in mainstream school, plays the piano and violin, goes to ballet and has an absolutely normal life that seemed impossible for the first few months after she was born. Living in a neonatal unit is a very stressful experience in itself without your added grief for Robyn, but you have a wonderful network of friends and family and now a wider network around the world. I write this from London, UK having been urged to read your story and offer support by a fellow blogger on twitter, Having done so it would be impossible not to send every good wish to you and your son – Robyn will live on through him. Much love J.A x

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  29. Petra’s avatar

    Dylan,

    Congratulations on the birth of your beautiful son Iver! He truly is a miracle!
    Robyn gave you the greatest gift in life <3 Kiss him, cuddle him, carry him, that's all he needs despite medical treatment.
    You two will have a great life together and Robyn will always be with you!

    All the best for you and greetings from Austria!

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  30. eva’s avatar

    Dylan,

    stay as strong as you are!! I am sure your wife would be proud of you and would have made the same decisions!

    Hugs to you both from Germany,
    Eva

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  31. Magda’s avatar

    Dear Dylan.
    I wish You a lot of strength and hope. I wish the best for your cute, sweet son;) You are wonderful father! It was miracle, I will pray for Iver. All the best for You.
    Magda from Poland.

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  32. Jeanette’s avatar

    You are a strong man and without you this wounderfull little baby dont lived.
    I have worked on premature with babies so I know what you feeling.
    God Bless you and your son.

    Regards
    Jeanette in Sweden

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  33. Chrissi’s avatar

    Dylan, I stumbled across your story in the news this morning. Take care of your little one.

    All the best,
    Chrissi
    (Vienna, Austria)

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  34. Karen’s avatar

    Dylan, my heart is breaking to hear that you had to let Robyn go sooner than expected. However, she carried Iver as long as she could, and has given him a fighting chance. Robyn has passed her strength on to your beautiful little boy.

    I will keep you and Iver and both of your families in my prayers. Together you will all come through this .

    Sending you love and light,
    Karen

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  35. Dan S’s avatar

    Dear Dylan
    I hope never to have to face anything like you have gone through, but if I do, I hope I can handle it with the strength, courage and dignity that you have shown.

    Iver
    You are in the most capable hands of anyone on this Earth to give you the best possible life you can have. Stay strong.

    I wish you both happiness and peace.

    Dan

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  36. Faith’s avatar

    Dear Dylan,
    Your story has touched my heart. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your precious baby boy. I delivered twin boys at 31 weeks in 2010 and spent 3 months in Nicu. One weighed 2 lb 6 oz and the other was 3 lb and 4 oz. One of them had some complications but now they are 3 years old healthy and strong! I wish you the best and you are a strong man dealing with this all at once, and I am sure it is not easy. I am sure you miss your wife very much. When you miss her just look at Iver and hug him close and always remember you have a part of her always!

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  37. Cathy’s avatar

    Dylan,

    Your story is inspiring. I’m so happy Iver is fine and he will surely be a healthy and pretty boy. I will pray for you Robyn and Iver from the bottom of my heart from Uruguay. God bless Robyn and all your and her family. Her memory is now in the hearts and minds of people all over the world.

    Stay Strong Dylan :)
    Cathy

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  38. Katja’s avatar

    Dear Dylan,

    I read the story of you, your beautiful son and your increadible strong wife in a German Newspaper (Stern.de).
    Congratulations for the birthday of your son!
    I hope he is healthy and make his way in life!

    At the same time I want to offer my heartfelt sympathy for your loss.
    I am sure your wife is proud of you.

    For the future only my best wishes to you two!
    Be strong!

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  39. Lisa S’s avatar

    My sincere condolences on the loss of your beautiful wife…and congratulations on the birth of your adorable son. You’re going to be a wonderful father and I wish you all the best.

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  40. Louise Montanari’s avatar

    Dear Dylan, you have been blessed with this beautiful child. May your life and your sons bring you many years of joy and happiness.

    I can just imagine how traumatic it has been for you. Your memories of Robyn will never leave you. Thank The Lord for allowing her to be with you for the time she has.

    Iver will be blessed to have a mom in heaven looking over the two special boys she left behind!

    Stay strong and focused! I live in South Africa miles away from you but will keep you and iver in our prayers xxxxx

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  41. Tara’s avatar

    Dylan, I have been waiting to hear this – and am so glad for you that Iver is here safe and sound. What a great job Robyn did, and what an absolutely amazing gift she has given you. You have a tough job ahead no about, but your positive spirit and Iver’s determination to be with you will see you though. I wish you both great joy as you take each step ahead of you together. Awesome awesome news. And of course, terrible that you had to say goodbye to Robyn…she will live with you forever in the greatest way possible, though your son and in your wonderful memories. Cheering for you alongside people from around the world, Tara from Brisbane Australia

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  42. Angel’s avatar

    You represent the truth of fatherhood! God Bless You! Keep on strong for your son!

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  43. Tom’s avatar

    Dylan,
    today I have noticed and read your story on germans online news magazine spiegel.de. I am really happy about the birth of your son Iver yesterday. And so sad about Robyn. My daughter was also born on 11. of february. A few days later her grandmother died with only 61years. We didn’t expected her death….knowing she had cancer. We thought she was on a good way. She only hold once my daughter in her arms. I still think that her will to live long enough and see her first granddauthter was stonger than cancer…..
    I always told my daughter that grandmother is watching and protection her, like Robyn will do it the same way to Iver.
    Sadly, birth and death are so close.
    I wish you both all the best from hearth. Stay strong and enjoy the live with Iver…it will be wunderfull.
    Big hugh
    Tom

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  44. Maya Chung’s avatar

    This makes me so sad. I am amazed at your strength. I can only imagine how hard your days must be. I pray that God strengthens you through this battle and that he comforts you as well. There is nothing I can say to make it better but know that my prayers are with you and your friends.

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  45. i am sky’s avatar

    I am a Japanese.
    I’m very surprised to hear this news on the Internet, and extremely impressed to read your article.
    I will cheer up you and Iver forever.
    Not so many people don’t meet such a miraculous birth.
    I wish your happiness.

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  46. JGA’s avatar

    Dylan and Iver:
    From Spain, many congratulations !!!! Your life is meaningful !!! I’m sure your wife/mother is happy in heaven.
    Good luck !!!

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  47. Silvia’s avatar

    Wish you both all the best! My childrens and fosterchildrens thoughts are with you.

    Hugs and warm regards from Germany
    Silvia and kids

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  48. Clarice’s avatar

    Dear Dylan,

    I’m from munich and I read about your story on a german website.

    I just wanted to wish you strength and the most important thing is to be there for your cute baby!! I have a premature baby too, he was born 24 + 3, weight 480 g. The doctors gave him a 30 % chance to survive with disabilities. I was 19 years old, my (now ex)husband was 24 yers old.

    My son, Davíd Damien is going to be 2 years old in mai and he’s completely healthy, he talks a lot the whole day, he runs like a champ, he’s just smaller and lighter than other children. He’s very intelligent and even the doctors say that it’s kind of a miracle…

    Be there for your child, every day, if it’s possible. The physical contact is the most important and at the moment the only thing that you may do for your child and its evolution. Iver needs your breath, your heartbeat, your smell.

    My son was 4 months at the hospital, I thought this would never end. But you just have to be strong, you need people who will be there for you in difficult moments!

    Give all your love to your wonderful cute son, be there and try to enjoy the time. I know, it might sound weird, but I was too young and too traumatized to enjoy our time and I could have given more love to my son. Fortunatly my ex husband was able and he encouraged me.

    I wish you lots of love and – welcome Baby Iver!! You’re so beautiful and precious! :-)

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  49. Belinda’s avatar

    Word cannot express how much I feel for what you are going through. I wish you mazaltov on the birth of little Iver and wish you Long Life for the loss of your loving and beautiful wife Robyn.

    May the memories of Robyn bring you comfort at this time and always be with you to share with Iver.

    I wish Iver much strength and continued health.

    Wishing you only happiness and love in the days ahead.

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  50. Kathrin’s avatar

    Dear Dylan,

    God bless your wife. I read your story with tears in my eyes on facebook/your blog. I’m very sorry for your loss.
    Your amazing wife will live on in Iver and all people who loved her.

    Of course many congratulations to your adorable son.
    My son was also born prematurely in week 33 with 2000 gr and 45 cm. these babies are small and they seem breakable. But they are stronger than we ever can imagine! My son is 7 month old now and a pretty normal baby as all the regular born babies. And your son, Iver, will also grow and handle this exercise that the life has set for him so early.

    I send you all the best wishes, love and strength from Germany.
    Kat

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  51. ina’s avatar

    Thoughts from us here in Germany.

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    1. jen wilson’s avatar

      I just read about your beautiful baby boy and wife. Saying I’m so sorry seems totally wrong. I just wanted you to know I will keep your entire family in my thoughts and prayers. The photo of you holding your son was so touching, it melted my heart. It’s clear to see the love and pride you have for Iver, if I may be so bold. Anyway, thank you so much for allowing everyone into your world. God Bless everyone you love….congratulations. Jen Wilson, Woodstock, Illinois.

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    2. Claudya’s avatar

      Much love to you and your beautiful son.

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    3. Michelle’s avatar

      Dylan, I am so moved by your story, which I just learned of today. My sister in law died on August 17th, 2013 four days after delivering her son. Her death was sudden and unexpected. Our hearts have been shattered, but the love for this new little life helps heal the loss of our beloved Erin. I wish you all of the love and support you will need during the coming days, months, and years to raise your son Iver and remember your precious wife Robyn.

      Thinking of you in California,
      Michelle

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    4. Tim’s avatar

      Congratiolations to your son.
      Read about your story in the swedish papers, truly heartbroken and at the same time happy for the arrival of your child, bittersweet doesn’t even come close. Anyway I hope you both have a wonderful life and that love will always be there for you both

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    5. Céu Oliveira’s avatar

      Sometimes life is not easy and what we were expecting it to be…

      I’m sorry for your lost, I’m happy for your son…I can’t imagine how you are feeling right now…

      Be strong for for you, your son and wife….somewhere she will be looking for you both and so proud of you, dad…

      Never forget that nothing is stronger than love.

      Wish you both lot’s of health and happiness.

      Love from Portugal!

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    6. Alena’s avatar

      I just read your story in the German newspapers and was so touched by the chaos of feelings at work. I wish you all the best, you can be so proud of your little son and I hope that he gives you the strength to deal with your loss :( But I am sure that you’ll both hold on tight because you need each other and will be there for each other.
      Best wishes and many good thoughts from Germany,
      Alena

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    7. Kendal’s avatar

      My heart goes out for you and your son. I followed your story on CNN.

      Just know you still have your wife and your son has his mom. She’s just another guardian angel watching over you both.

      Best Wishes ~ God speed <3

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    8. Merle’s avatar

      Dearest Dylan,

      I just heard about your story and words cannot describe how touched and hugely sorry I am for your wife and your situation.
      It is almost incredible to believe how unbelievably strong your wife has been this past few weeks – she truly must have been an awesomely strong woman.
      My strongest sympathies on her passing away.

      .. And congratulations on your son! Iver is going to be such a wonderful person with all the strength that lies in him as he has already proved. I wish you and your son a wonderful and most happy life with lots of beautiful memories, both of your life together and also the ones of his mum your going to share with him.
      I have the most respect for you I wish you all the very very best for everything that is going to come!!!

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    9. Janine’s avatar

      Dylan & Iver –

      Your story has touched so many lives. We mourn your loss of Robyn with you and wish you good health and comfort.

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    10. Shogo’s avatar

      Dear Dylan,

      I just read your article and I cannot help writing a message to you. I’m just, so impressed how strong your wife and yourself. Your family is the best. You’re going to be the best dad in the world and I am sure Iver’s going to be very strong person like you and wishing his happy life.

      Best wishes from Japan

      Shogo

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    11. Kathy’s avatar

      Dear Dylan,
      I was reading your story today, after a friend of mine told me about this. I can not deny that I cried. Such an incredibly sad but also happy moment for you, holding your little son in your arms and loosing your wife in the same moment. I can’t describe how I feel about that, god can be so cruel. I wish you all the very best for your son and your future, I’m sure you gonna make it through. May your beautiful strong wife never be forgotten.
      This is breathtaking.
      Greets from Germany!

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    12. Roxanne Dautremont’s avatar

      A Canadian Gold Olympic medal was won by a girl named Dara Howell this week; She started life as a preemie. ( I think Iver outweighed her!) I tweeted “A preemie just won Gold in the #Olympics. Can’t wait to see what Iver will do!”

      This little powerhouse favourited the tweet, your boy has some pretty impressive fans.

      One day at a time, Iver will be an incredible gift to you.

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    13. Rahul gupta’s avatar

      I am a dad to a 7 month old princess and i exactly know how it feels. Robyn would be extremely proud of u and must i say that Iver is the luckiest kid in this entire world. Best wishes from India.
      Regards
      Rahul

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    14. Pam’s avatar

      Dylan,

      You are such an amazing father. My heart hurts for what all you have gone through. I pray you and Iver have a beautiful, happy life together. God bless you all.

      Pam

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    15. Susan’s avatar

      Dylan,

      I’ve been touched by your story since I saw it in the news a few weeks ago. In your eyes I can see the love you have for your son and your wife. These times will not be easy, but you will be surrounded by your family and by love from people around the world you’ve never met.

      Please accept both my condolences for the loss of your wife and my congratulations on the birth of your beautiful son. I wish you the strength to show him as much love as you and Robyn clearly shared.

      Susan

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    16. Beatriz’s avatar

      Dear Dylan,

      I’m very sorry for your wife, but I know she’s still around you and your beautiful baby. Wish you both only the best.

      Be strong, and be happy!

      Best regards,

      Beatriz, from Brazil.

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    17. miyuki ,From Japan’s avatar

      Dear Dylan,

      I feel so sorry to hear that you lost your wife Robyn.

      But you have a baby Iver , the strongest and the happiest boy .

      Your wife Robyn will live forever in your heart , and always looking you and your son Iver.

      With all my regards,
      Miyuki

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    18. Allison’s avatar

      As the mother of a preemie (now a healthy 5 year old) I know how hard the next few weeks may be for you, just as a new dad. I don’t know what it feels like to be doing that without your wife, and I don’t know you, but please know that I’m rooting for you with everything I’ve got. God bless.

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    19. Helen’s avatar

      I am very sorry for your loss…

      Welcome to the world, Baby Iver…Dylan I have faith that you are going to be an amazing father, Baby Iver has a long road ahead of him being a preemie.… The legacy of Robyn lives on in Iver…God Bless You All
      Helen

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    20. Chelsea’s avatar

      You are going to Rock at daddyhood! It’s written all over your face. Blessings to you both. He is gorgeous!!

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    21. Mindy’s avatar

      I am so sorry to hear about your wife. It is so sad. May you be comforted.

      And congratulations on the birth of your son! May he grow up to give you much pride and joy.

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    22. christina’s avatar

      Dylan,

      I came across your story online, and I just wanted to say congratulations and we are rooting for you and baby Iver. Although this is a time of celebrating but also grieving, please know that there are so many people wishing you the best and saying prayers for your family.
      With lots of love and hope and faith -
      Christina

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    23. Libi’s avatar

      Dearest Dylan

      I cannot fathom the extreme highs and lows your emotions must be going through at this time.

      Sincerest condolences on the loss of your adored wife and equally sincere congratulations on the birth of your son whom she fought so hard to give life to.

      Wishing you only happiness and love in the days ahead.

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      1. Rie’s avatar

        I am email to you from Japan. Many Japanese are so sad and, at the same time, are very impressed your article. We all hope you and your son have a wanderful life. Be strong, Dylan and Iver!

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      2. Brenda’s avatar

        I have just read your story on our news feed here in Australia, what am incredibly sad story, such a happy time in your life has been turned upside down into a heartbreakingly sad time. I wish you all the best for the future to both you and your precious son.

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      3. cyndi from australia’s avatar

        I’m so sorry for the loss of your wife and I hope Iver has a wonderful life with his Dad. Blessings to you all and may you always keep the memories of his mother very close to him. X

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      4. Leeanne’s avatar

        Robyn would be so proud of you.
        Iver is such a lucky boy.
        You truly are an inspiration.
        Wishing you a happy life. xx

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      5. Phil’s avatar

        Condolances Dylan from us here in Australia….it is always hard when you have one of those incredibly hard to understand sad/happy moments in you life, but we sincerely wish you all the best for both you and your son for the future of your lives together

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      6. Carri’s avatar

        Gods blessings to you and Iver. And I am so very sorry that this happened to your wife. She obviously was an incredible woman and mother to stay so strong and fight for Iver’s life. She gave her life so that Iver could have his, there is nothing more amazing than that. You and your son have been given a very special story to tell and share with the world. I hope people will see just how important life is because of your choice and what a courageous man you are to have wanted to have your son with you forever. I know your wife is so proud of you and your son…..

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      7. Shanda’s avatar

        Hi,

        You are so incredibly strong! You are inspiration to so many. A great person that you are to make the decision to proceed on getting Iver here safe and healthy. You are amazing and already an awesome Father. God Bless you and baby Iver.

        This story is amazing!!

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      8. Mollie’s avatar

        I am praying for you both, and your extended family. Rooting for you, cheering you on, and mourning for your incredible loss, all at once. I pray that you and Iver will have so much joy together.

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      9. Sara’s avatar

        Congratulations on the safe arrival of your little guy – how wonderful for him to arrive surrounded by so much love from so many people. My sincerest condolences on the passing of your wife.

        We’re all pulling for you and Baby Iver and wish you nothing but the best.

        xoxoxo

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      10. mary-jo’s avatar

        My deepest condolences Dylan with the passing of your wife. You will be a wonderful dad to Iver.

        Big Hug
        Mary-Jo

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      11. Conchi’s avatar

        Dear Dylan and baby Iver. I am a young girl that I write from Madrid (Spain) I have read your story and Robyn seems to me a great woman and a great mother. Sure is sitting on a cloud watching your precious baby so loved and cared for you all. If you do not mind writing to keep in touch and we still have to hear from you.
        Sorry Robyn loss. of heart
        I wish you all the luck in the world and I hope that you give all the love that your mom would want to have.
        A big kiss
        Conchi

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      12. Johanna’s avatar

        So very sad for you, and for your beautiful wife never getting to meet your son. But so wonderful that he could make it! Best wishes to you both and your families.

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      13. Liz’s avatar

        Congrats on the arrival of Iver! My deepest sympathies for the loss of your wife. I wish you both the best through your NICU journey, I hope his stay is short and uneventful. My guy was a 32wker and spent just shy of 4wks in the NICU, it was hard, but your son is in the best hands possible, remember that! :)

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      14. Clara’s avatar

        Congratulations Dylan :) stay strong *peace*

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      15. M from Singapore’s avatar

        Dylan and Iver, I wish you well, strong and healthy. No words can convey the intensity of this situation, hence I leave you my love from across the ocean.

        Lots of love,
        M

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      16. kelly’s avatar

        I saw this story on a news page, and just had to find and commend you. So strong, so brave. You will both be in my prayers.

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      17. Krista’s avatar

        My deepest sympathies on the loss of your amazing wife. Baby Iver will grow to learn what a wonderful Mommy he had. She kept him safe, growing, and healthy. What all mothers want for their babies.

        She will forever live in your hearts. May you find her strength and courage as Iver continues to grow and get stronger. My best to you as you enter parenthood as no one should have to and that the love of your precious baby brings you peace.

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      18. david’s avatar

        Dylan,
        Your story moved me in ways that I cannot express. I pray that Iver will grow to be strong and healthy and I pray for continued strength for you as you grieve and as you stand by Iver’s side while he is in the hospital. Thinking of you both…

        David

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      19. marie’s avatar

        Dear Dylan,
        You are going to be an incredible dad.You already are! Iver is such a precious gift. I wish you both lots of love and the best for the future.

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      20. Ame’s avatar

        Congratulations on welcoming Iver to the world! We are so excited for you.

        God bless your wife. We are very sad to hear she passed. Her memory is now in the hearts and minds of people all over the world.

        Nothing is stronger than love.

        Yay baby Iver!!!!

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      21. Denise’s avatar

        I am very sorry for your loss… :(

        Welcome to the world, Baby Iver… Hold on tight, Dylan… The legacy of Robyn lives on in Iver…

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      22. Melanie’s avatar

        Dylan,

        Many congratulations on the bittersweet birth of Iver. His birth comes with such an array of emotions I am sure. My condolences and warm thoughts as you say your final goodbyes to his mommy.

        I am currently 31 weeks pregnant with my third child and hold you and your families close to my heart. How much did Iver weigh? What have doctors said about him in terms of NICU time? My first child was born at 30 weeks 5 days and was 3 lbs 5 oz. She did very well and was home within 5 weeks.

        I wish you strength with your upcoming trials and tribulations, struggles and victories as you journey through the NICU and your farewell to your wife.

        Hugs,
        Melanie

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