Not much time to write, so just a quick update.

Hello all,

Dylan here. I just wanted to reach out and say thank you to each and every one of you that have read our story and to those who have donated and/or shared. We are overwhelmed with the response from not only the community, but now the nation and beyond.

We sincerly appreciate that the donations have continued, even though we have surpassed the donation goal. We set the goal at 36K as that would essentially be one year of Robyn’s wages. Now that is has been accomplished, any additional funds will not only go towards living costs and the costs associated with supporting Iver, but also towards us moving to a more suitable living space for the two of us, and of course towards an education fund for Iver.

We had another ultrasound today and things are still looking good for Iver, and Robyn is still holding on strong.

Thanks again for your continued support. We truly appreciate the help and kind words.

Take care,

Dylan – See more at: http://www.youcaring.com/help-a-neighbor/baby-iver-fund/133560#sthash.SXxknwQK.dpuf

  1. Blaise’s avatar

    I’m groping at my brain to find the right words, without much success ..

    Your article leapt out amidst all the provocative junk reporters write these days. Thank you for showing me such strength and devotion to pull through life – thank you Dylan, thank you Iver, and thank you Robyn. She will be smiling inside to know that her life and death were not in vain at all.

    I hope that Iver never forgets how much love he has received for as long as he lives, even if his mother couldn’t be right there to tell him.

    Lots of support, from across the Pacific ;)
    Seoul, Korea
    Blaise

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  2. Clare Deligny’s avatar

    Hi Dylan,

    your story has moved me so much, I can’t even begin to imagine what you must be going through. The one thing I can say is that babies are very tough and resilient, and so is the human spirit. Stay positive and be the best dad you can be to make your beautiful wife proud from above.

    All the best and I will be following your journey hoping you and the little guy pull through it together.

    From Clare
    Alice Springs, Australia

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  3. Jess’s avatar

    Hi Dylan,

    Sending you, Robyn & Iver big hugs from Sydney.
    I am also sending prayers to heaven for you all.

    Much love,
    Vish, Jess & JJ

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  4. jenn’s avatar

    Such love from around the world…I spent a lot of time visiting a friend that was in the ICU at Vic General and those nurses and doctors are top notch. Our experience with the NICU was a short one but others we know had a much longer time there and have nothing but the best praise for the staff and care and attention they and their wee ones were given.Hang in there Dylan, just take small steps, don’t look far down the road and worry, just look at tomorrow.One day at a time, you will do this and you are such a brave person to be able to come forward for the sake of your babe. Sending love and best wishes to you, Robyn, her family and friends and of course your family and friends. I hope at some point somebody can print off all the good wishes for your babe to see when he is grown,how many people cared, loved and prayed for him and his family. He has touched the hearts of the world and the world anxiously awaits his safe arrival. You can do this, you have shown the strength of an amazing dad already.

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  5. Mim’s avatar

    Dear Dylan: praying for you and your wife and your son. An FYI – I was born when my mother was 6 months and 3 weeks pregnant. 27 weeks. This was in 65. I’ve always been extremely healthy (I spent 2 months in ICU which was pretty primitive back then), I have a PhD and have had four of my own children all healthy and happy. Hold on mate, hold on tight to your family and friends and the love that your wife had for you and that you have for her. She knew you loved her and she knew the joy of a coming child.

    Sending you strength and love and the best of all wishes.

    Yours with much affection
    Mim in New Zealand

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  6. Suzy Carrillo’s avatar

    I am so touched by your heartrending story. I am truly sorry for what had happened to you and your family. Everything happens, happens for a reason. Just remain strong for the sake of your little precious. He is absolutely lucky to have such wonderful parents like you and Robyn. My prayers to you and your family, all the way from Malaysia. ~Suzy Carrillo~

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  7. TLC’s avatar

    I’m glad ur child is still healthy. Try to remember that your child will depend on you. Remaining as calm and steady as possible will help not only you but Iver. The rock will be you now.
    Your wife sounds great, life isn’t fair :-(
    Stay positive.
    TLC

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  8. Vt Friend’s avatar

    I just read the article on the Times and was disheartened to hear what Dr. Spike had to say. I cannot believe he would say that the mother might not want the child to live. You WILL be a wonderful father, and even though I have only read this story, I know that your wife would have wanted Iver to be with safe with you. Stay strong.
    With love and prayers from VT

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  9. Ivan from Serbia’s avatar

    Hello Dylan, my name is Ivan and Iam from Serbia, i have been read in our news paper about you and your blog.

    Just want to say,My heart goes out
    to you, your family, your wife’s family, and
    your son. There are no words to describe
    what you are going through, but I
    commend you for your strength of heart
    and soul.

    God bless you , your son .

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  10. Amy’s avatar

    Dylan,
    Your story touched my heart and brought me to tears. I am so sorry about the loss of your wife. I am so familiar with some of these feelings because my mom had a brain aneurysm rupture a little over a year ago, she spent a month in the ICU. Like your wife, all she had was a headache. Your son is not only a blessing, but a miracle. I will be praying for you and for comfort for you as you navigate through this. God bless-

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  11. vanessa’s avatar

    Hello Dylan,

    After reading your story I have to start by saying that my heart is truly breaking for you. I am so sincerely sorry for the loss of your wife. What a truly tragic thing to have happened. You are an amazingly strong man to be able to keep going & hold on for your unborn child and I only wish you all the very best for the future ahead. I do think that your wife would be so very proud of you and will be watching over you & your son each and every moment like a true angel. Your son is extremely lucky to have such a wonderful father and will have the greatest future because you love him. Keep holding on and when your little one is born give him a kiss for his mummy as I am sure she won’t be too far away in spirit. God bless you both & Sorry again. Lots of Love xx

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  12. Tara’s avatar

    When is Robyn due/when is the C-section? I’d like to donate, but preferably once Iver is born.

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    1. misterbenson’s avatar

      Our due date is May 2nd but he will be born in the next 6 weeks.

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    2. Tara’s avatar

      Dylan, all the positive thoughts coming to you from around the globe will surely work towards giving Iver a fighting chance. It’s impossible to understand fully what you are going through, but my heart goes out to you. I will be rooting for you and baby Iver – may you have a beautiful life together, and Robyn’s legacy of love will be a lifetime source of strength. I wish you strength. Dont forget to look out for yourself too. Virtual hugs from Brisbane Australia, Tara

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    3. Katrina N’s avatar

      Hang in there Dylan. Every single day that passes Iver gets stronger. I’m sure your wife will know that you need him so much to help you grieve her shocking loss, and would be pouring everything she has into this wonderful new vessel – for you. It’s an unimaginable situation for you to be in, and my heart goes out to you… just hang in there, and hold onto the hope that you’ll be able to tell Iver all about how amazing his mum is. She’ll live on through Iver, and he’ll know her through you. Much love to you and your wife, from Australia. X

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    4. Leza Lang’s avatar

      Hi Dylan, just read your story & however sad your loss is going to be Robyn & yourself made this wonderful little life that will continue to bring joy to you & both families. I am the very proud mother of 10, my now 18 year old son Joshua was born at 27.5 weeks in a hospital that was not equipped to deliver him, he was transferred to a more equipped hospital & was given a 30% chance of surviving, he proved the doctors wrong & has done amazing things with his young life so far including becoming an Australia Day Ambassador, I believe that babies are brought into this world early for bigger & brighter things ahead of them. Both you & Iver will do well, you will grow together & climb higher than others will. Our hearts go out to you, Iver & both families, stay strong.

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    5. Rachel Mckenzie’s avatar

      Hi Dylan,
      Just wanted to say you are the most amazing person, the whole world is so fortunate to have you in it. Our thoughts and prayers are with you and baby Iver and your beautiful wife now and forever. You will make an amazing Dad. Stay strong your road will become lighter…best wishes from Australia

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    6. Bron’s avatar

      Iver is already the luckiest little boy in the world for having a daddy like you, you must just be like…what the hell just happened? Im sending you so much love and positive energy for a beautiful bright, amazing future with your little man. The fact that you are already this far shows how strong and couragous you are, even if if you feel the complete opposite and want to fall apart, you are doing an amazing job just to get up in the morning my friend. I also think Megan’s idea of a toy and a photo with Iver and his muma is beautiful idea and something that Iver can treasure forever. Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming :)

      Much love,
      Bron

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    7. Dina’s avatar

      Our hearts go out to you and your family.
      Enjoy your precious bundle of joy as he certainly has a father to be very proud of.
      Hugs and kisses from Australia!

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    8. craig’s avatar

      Dylan

      You would have you to be the bravest and toughest person I have herd of
      I couldn’t even imagine what it was be like for you to go through this
      Reading your blog brought a few tears and memories of when my niece was born she was born at 24 weeks and weighted massive 530 grams she’s now 15 and going great gun’s
      You must show these blogs to your son when his old enough to understand. He is the luckiest little man to have a real man as a father.

      One last thing take some photos with you wife and son even if you dont look at them now.

      My thoughts are with you and your little man over the next few weeks

      Craig
      Sydney Australia

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    9. Patty’s avatar

      Your family and your story touched my heart and made me realise how blessed many of us are that never have to deal with such a monumental situation. My love to you, Iver and Robyn and I wish you the best for your future. Love and best wishes from Brisbane, Australia xxoo

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    10. Leigh-Anne Lunney’s avatar

      Hi Dylan

      Keep strong you are doing a fantastic job so far and so is Robyn. She is with you all the way and she will let you know somehow when it is time to let go and bring joy into your world again in baby Ivor. Your story is truly inspirational. God Bless
      Hugs from
      Leigh-Anne Lunney
      Gold Coast Australia
      xxoo

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    11. James’s avatar

      A story such as yours has not touched me as much as this one has. I can’t even begin to imagine the heartache your going through, but mate stay strong. Your story has gone viral, it’s here in Australia and it’s huge. This has impacted so many peoples lives and hopefully your story has allowed people in society to love and appreciate the things they have because you never know when your going to lose someone as close as you did. Your an inspiration Dylan and you have the power to give your son the best life he deserves. One day man, I will come to Cananda and hunt you down, just to give you a big hug and a small gift for your son. Please keep us all posted. James

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    12. Nicholas’s avatar

      Hi Dylan,
      I just want to wish you the very best of luck for the future. I know you will be a wonderful father to Iver and will enjoy an incredible life together. My thoughts are with you and your beautiful wife.
      Sincerely,
      Nicholas

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    13. Bri’s avatar

      My first was born at 27 weeks. At this point, you can have q00% faith that your son will enter the world and grow up to be perfectly healthy. I am so inspired by your story. I wish I had something to donate. However, I do have advice instead. I think you should start looking into milk banks, eats on feets, la leche league… or even just any women you see breastfeeding… You can still get your son breastmilk so he can have that healthy start to his life, even though his mother may not be able to do it for him. So may women would love to give your baby that gift.

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    14. Gigi’s avatar

      Hi Dylan

      It’s almost midnight here in Brisbane. I couldn’t sleep so I started reading the news. I’m so sorry to have read about your wife. She is indeed beautiful and I’m sure your rock. Iver is a lucky man to have a mom like her and an amazing dad like you. I pray that God give you strength at this time in your life. I will never know your pain but I will be praying for your family.
      You truly are an amazing man. God bless you.
      Gigi

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    15. Martina’s avatar

      Hi Dylan,
      Firstly I want to commend you with my whole heart for writing this blog and for making the hard decision of becoming a single father. Whilst it will hard to say goodbye you will also feel so much love for that baby boy – it will never replace the love for your wife – but its a living memory you have of your wife. As a nurse I truly hope that the delivery of Ivor is uneventful and that you have a healthy happy bouncing baby boy. All my love and keeping blogging its very therapeutic. Love Marti xxx

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    16. Jamie O'Brien’s avatar

      Dear Dylan. My thoughts and prayers are with you. You are definately the most courageous man I have heard of. Don’t stop for a minute and doubt what you are doing and please believe that you have so many people praying and thinking of you, your wife, and your son. I really wish I could come and give you a hug. My name is Jamie, I live in Brisbane Australia. If there is anything I can do, please email me. I will pray for your family. What an amazing man.

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    17. Todd Ferguson’s avatar

      Hi Dylan, it’s hard to know what to write to you having just read the article about your family in the news here in Australia. I have 2 gorgeous little girls and an equally gorgeous partner and I cannot begin to fathom the awful game of chess going on between your head and your heart and to be honest, I don’t know that I’d have the strength or resolve you have shown since that fateful day in December.

      All I can say is that I am profoundly moved by your determination to make the best possible life for Iver and more-so by your amazing wife’s strength and endurance to (consciously / unconsciously?) give him every possible chance. It just shows how incredible the human body truly is.

      You are an amazing example to Dads everywhere and you, Robyn and Iver will forever be in my thoughts.

      All the very best mate

      Todd Ferguson, Brisbane (Australia)

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    18. Amin’s avatar

      just read your article & posts..have tears in my eyes…will pray for your family..
      hope everything goes well and soon you will get to hold your son in your hands…
      Lots of love and wishes..

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    19. mary-jo’s avatar

      Hi Dylan, I just came across your blog and am really amazed by your and the whole family’s strength. Will keep you and fam in my prayers. Please give your wife a big hug from me, all the way from Johannesburg, SA

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    20. Kumar’s avatar

      Hello Dylan,

      My prayers are with you. God bless you with all the strength and courage during these tough periods. Take care!!!

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    21. Julia’s avatar

      Your love and dedication to your beautiful wife and precious son should be an inspiration to every father. I am so sorry that this happened to your family. You, your son, and your wife will remain in my thoughts and prayers. I hope for strength for you and for your son as you face the challenges to come. There are more people rooting for you both than you will probably ever know.

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    22. Katie’s avatar

      Dylan,
      I read your story for the first time today and was greatly inspired by your bravery. Althought it seems obvious that saving your baby the right thing to do, not everyone in this day and age would have the courage to stand by selflessly through this process, which I can imagine must cause you both suffering and hope at the same time. I just want to applaud your choice and (although I have no place) to tell you that as an expectant mother, I would want my husband to make the same choices that you have made. I will keep you and your family in my prayers. Also, I might mention that I am 22 weeks pregnant and my son will be named Cohen, like your Iver.
      God bless.

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    23. Oscar’s avatar

      Stay strong Dylan, everything is going to be alright.

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    24. Michelle’s avatar

      Hi Dylan,

      I am so sorry to hear about the situation you are facing. You are displaying so much strength and are really an inspiration. I just wanted to let you know that I will be praying for Robyn and your baby. I believe in miracles, and I believe many miracles can happen in your situation. Keep believing and keep your head up. Thank you for sharing your heart. As a wife, I am sure that Robyn would be so proud of you!

      God bless,
      Michelle

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    25. Natalie and Eloy’s avatar

      Dylan,
      We commit to praying for you and your family in such difficult times. My heart breaks for all that you are facing right now. Know that a young couple just like you is praying for your baby, momma and Daddy. God keep you in his hands, strengthen you and comfort you. In Jesus name. Amen. Hugs from Cali.

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    26. Sharon’s avatar

      Thank-you, Dylan, for sharing your story. You show tremendous courage in doing so, at a time when you are suffering such pain.

      Appealing to the community, locally & internationally, for support has resulted in opening of the hearts of many; you have given the opportunity for us to show our fine qualities of kindness and concern.
      It restores our skills of basic humanity, whether it be a hug, a smile, a donation or a hot lasagne dinner. Thank-you!

      In my opinion, Robyn wasn’t the only “rock” in your relationship.
      Am looking forward to your blog posts … God bless you, Robyn and little unborn baby Iver.

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    27. Ingrid’s avatar

      Hello Dylan,

      I just heard about your story and I can’t believe or imagine how much are you suffering… But as can read you’re a very strong person, I am sure that I couldn’t even try to get ahead… Now I just hope that everything goes well and your son finally can have a chance in this life and Robyn stay in peace. A big hug from Catalonia, best wishes for all of you. You are not alone.

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    28. Catharina’s avatar

      Reading your story from France… No words will be good enough to tell you how I feel sorry for your loss. I’m a young mother, how lucky am I. Please stay strong for your baby boy… The entire world is with you and believes in you! Big hugs for your family and a warm welcome to this world for Iver.

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    29. Kindness Blog’s avatar

      Hello Dylan,

      Just to say that we are thinking of you and your family and wishing you the best.

      We have also shared your story with our readers…

      http://kindnessblog.com/2014/02/05/kind-strangers-help-to-save-dylan-bensons-unborn-son/

      Take care.

      Mike.

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    30. Kat’s avatar

      Hello Dylan, I’ve just come across your blog and my thoughts are with you and your family. I read in a previous post that you visited the NICU and saw a 900g baby, which gave you hope. I’ve now had two NICU babies, both at 28 weeks- our girl was 930g and our little boy was 850g. She is now 2 and a bit years and he is 6 months, happy and healthy and wonderful. These little ones are fighters, and so strong even though they’re so tiny!! My prayers are with you all, may Iver have a quick and uneventful trip through the NICU!!

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    31. Megan’s avatar

      Hi, I don’t know if you will have a chance to read this but I really wanted to say that you are doing an amazing job. I don’t know either you or your wife, but as a mother of four I believe you are doing what every mother would need and want you to do and that is keeping her child safe and loved.
      It is just an idea but find a stuffed toy (try your wife’s favourite animal); snuggle it up with her for the next few months to get her scent on it and when your son enters the world have a picture taken of your son with his mother and this toy. Give the toy to him as a gift from her for his birth, keep it with him in his cot and in his car seat and he will always have a “mum hug” within arms reach and the photo of the three of them together.
      Sometimes it will be hard and you are going to get angry, hurt and frustrated with him, yourself and the rest of the world; when that happens know it is not because you are a single dad, or that you are doing anything wrong…it is because you are a parent and whether there is one of you or two and no matter how many children you have we all go through this; it means you are doing exactly what the two of you would have done together.
      I am sorry that such joy is going to be darkened by what follows, but she is giving you a bit of her that will be with you forever.
      Good luck with the future
      Megan (Adelaide, Australia)

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    32. annie’s avatar

      Your story amazes me – all the best for you and your special boy. Sounds like he has a kick-ass mama on his team too. I’m sure you get endless messages, but I just wanted to say how moving I found your story. Good luck xxx

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    33. Jess’s avatar

      Praying for you, your son and the rest of your family as you go through this difficult time. May you feel Gods strength, comfort, love and peace! You are an amazing Husband & soon to be dad! Be Blessed!

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    34. Melanie’s avatar

      Hello Dylan, I’ve read your story and it truly broke my heart. I imagine how difficult it must be for everyday. I don’t really know what to tell you, we don’t know each other, but I just wanted you to know that I have a lot of empathy for you and I sincerely hope things will turn out the best they can be.

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    35. jenn’s avatar

      The whole world is pulling for you Iver, you have the whole world in your hand. Thank you dad for having the strength to share and ask for help in your time of need. Your wife would be so proud I am sure. My thoughts and prayers to you, the baby and all the family members so affected by this particularly Robyn’s family also suffering such loss and joy all wrapped together.

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    36. Kimmmm’s avatar

      Hi Dylan,

      Your story was shared in our news here in Australia (http://www.news.com.au/lifestyle/real-life/dylan-benson-is-fighting-to-save-his-unborn-son-iver-after-his-wife-robyn-was-declared-brain-dead/story-fnixwvgh-1226818111089) so you have many, many, many Aussies thinking of your family today.

      I can’t begin to imagine how devastated you must be after the turn of events in your life.

      All that I can say is that we hope your little man is born healthy and hearty and ready to fight!

      Thinking of you all.

      Kim
      Tasmania, Australia

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    37. Julie’s avatar

      Hello Dylan, Iver & Robyn, thank you for sharing your very personal and heart-wrenching story with the world. I see by the comments that you are reaching far and wide. There are no words to ease your pain, but just know that total strangers are in awe of your strength, grace, and deep love for Iver & Robyn – it is palpable and raw, but truly inspiring.

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    38. Angela R’s avatar

      Hello Dylan, I just read about your wife and baby, I am so touched by your courage. Nobody can tell you anything that could ever make you feel better but be sure that you have so many people wishing you strenght and praying for you and your baby. Think about the miracle of life and the perfect gift your soulmate gave you. You cannot imagine the feeling of being a parent. You are on your road to salvation. I garantee that you will find that being a good father is the new goal of your life.

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    39. Chelsey’s avatar

      Dylan, Praying for you for strength and for the peace of God at this difficult time. Praying for little Iver for continued health.

      Robyn looks like such an incredible and joyful person. As a mom I would want my husband to make the same choices you’re making. The gift she is giving to her son and to you is beautiful.

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    40. Clive Read’s avatar

      Hi Dylan
      I am in the same boat as you maybe when you have time we can compare notes.With you in spirit all the way from Africa. Clive
      http://Www.cesiraread.blogspot.com

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    41. Suzanne Wilkinson’s avatar

      Hi Dylan, I just read your blog and am incredibly moved by your generosity of spirit to share your story. I simply cannot imagine what you must be feeling–it’s good to read that you have a great support network and friends and family are taking good care of you. And you must know by now that your story is completely viral and everyone is holding you and your wife and your son in their hearts, sending you thoughts of courage and strength to help you through these coming months.
      We had a micro preemie born almost two years ago at 834 grams–she then lost weight (totally normal) to 711 grams. Today she is 23 months old and just over 20lbs–still tiny for her age, but good things come in small packages.
      If you would like a good book to read up on preemies, there is one available called “Preemies, 2nd Edition” by Dana Weschler Linden and two others. Excellent resource. It became our go to resource for all our preemie questions–very helpful.
      If you are hoping to obtain donated breast milk for Iver, I urge you seek out the Human Milk 4 Human Babies –Vancouver Island on Facebook. It’s the best place to search for donated milk.
      If you’re going to go the formula route, well, they’re all essentially the same, so says our dietician.
      If you don’t already know about the awesomeness of Jeneece Place, ask to be referred through the social worker at VGH–we used Jeneece Place for the whole 110 days our babe was in NICU. They were wonderful when we were living there AND when we continued for day use after I was able to move back home.
      Some of my friends thought it would be a good idea for you make a hand cast of Robyn’s hand for Iver to have later on. Or a fingerprint. Something tangible of her as a remembrance.
      On that note–I’ll sign off.
      Courage.
      Suzanne

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    42. Lindsay F.’s avatar

      Reading your story from across the country in Toronto. My deepest condolences to you Dylan. I can’t imagine what you’re going through right now and everything that’s weighing so heavily on your mind.

      When the time is right, you need to read Two Kisses for Maddy by Matt Logelin. He went through something similar about 6 years ago when his beloved wife got a pulmonary embolism just after she had given birth to their daughter Madeleine. She passed away 27 hours after the birth of their first and only baby together and what’s especially sad is that she was just on her way to the NICU to see her for the first time when she collapsed and died. Matt lived through months in the hospital with Maddy and he has chronicled since those early days, blogging everything from triumphs to tribulations. Sharing his story and life online at being a first time father was something truly remarkable and special. I think you can look to him for some inspiration. His wife was the love of his life, high school sweethearts.. very similar to your story. http://www.mattlogelin.com

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    43. Linne’s avatar

      Dylan, even if this is the worst thing that can happen to you, know that you are in the best place for it to happen. I was in a similar situation not to long ago. My mom spent more than a month in the ICU of Vic Gen. They were the best! The love and care they provided not only to my mom but also to the rest of the family was phenomenal. You are in good hands. Your son will pull through and you will be there to tell him just how much his mommy loved him. Our prayers and best wishes go out to you. Linne

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    44. Humberto Miranda’s avatar

      A big hello and strength to this great moment that comes in your life, I wish you the best for your family. All things happen for a reason, and your wife will be proud of you and your son a hug, greetings from Chile !!

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